Dec 26, 2012

Every Man Is an Island

      I love to think. Chasing thoughts around my head is my favorite pastime activity, which can quickly become a huge pain in the ass. Sometimes the pain escalates all the way to my head... I know excessive and on(and-on)going thinking is actually bad for me since the lack of thoughts is the point of Buddhism, Taoism and may other isms but I can't help it. One thing is for sure - I'll never reach nirvana.

      The time of year got me reevaluating my perspective on values. Some value love, some value family, some value big shiny things (if they can go fast as well, that's just an added bonus) and that's fine. But on the top of my list is none of that. It seems that all of the brain twitches in my head point to one thing - self-sufficiency.
      More often than not, it happens that you need somebody. And even more often than that, there's nobody around to help you. An English poet once wrote "No man is an island" but I think Mr. Donne got his geography facts mixed up. Or anatomy, I don't know. I just know that we are exactly that - insularly isolated islands. We do grow apart and draw closer together, but mostly just grow further apart. Just a thought: How many people, to whom you've said or wrote "Merry Christmas!" this past week, will you see or know what's happening in their lives a month from now? I'm telling you - an island. We are social creatures, don't get me wrong, but we're just as egotistical as we're are social. If not more. I've sure been convinced throughout my life that it's best to know how to stand on my own two feet and not wait for other islands to come to my rescue.
      You can read this and think: "A clear case of daddy issues or boyfriend troubles or abandonment by friends." And to that I say: Of course. All of that. We've all been let down, we've all been disappointed, haven't we? But I don't feel damaged because of that, I feel stronger. Why do people think that you simply need to learn how to trust others again after you've been hurt, when one thing is certain - you can't trust or depend on anybody but yourself. I, unlike probably most people, find this thought comforting. There's always somebody there - me. That's why I think it's best to be self-sufficient in all aspects of life or at least as many aspects as possible.
      Leonardo da Vinci was supposedly the last man on Earth to know everything. Some say it was Francis Bacon, but I'm rooting for da Vinci. I'm a die-hard da Vinci fan, foam finger and everything. Think about it - to know EVERYTHING there is to know about EVERYTHING. If Paris Hilton were to comprehend that, she'd say: "That's hot." And I'd agree with her, that's pure erotica! My holy grail. I'm far from reaching it but I'm happy that I know how to cook and drive and change a tire. How to use a washing machine (without shrinking and discoloring side effects) and a sewing machine (without sewing stuff to my fingers), fix the plumbing, built a cabinet, mix concrete, shear my dog's fur, cut and dye my own hair, not to mention change a light bulb. This has nothing to do with feminism nor is it an ode to independent ladies everywhere. I just don't want to be caught unprepared, I've seen one too many turned backs.
      Although its frequency and severity varies, help is something that everybody needs and I'm not trying to say that I don't. But would I rather not need help? Absolutely. When you ask for help you get called needy or incompetent or lazy. So why not push dependency to the fringes of history and make it obsolete? I'm telling you - self-sufficiency is the new black.


I'm wearing:
Leather vest: Newyorker
Harem pants: H&M
Top: H&M
Heels: eBay
Clutch: eBay
Earrings: DIY
(If you like 'em, come by on Friday, I'll post how I made them.)

48 comments:

  1. I love how the red of your hair and shoes give colour to your outfit! :)

    Cool Shooting ,$ophie xx

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  2. very interesting musings... I guess I agree with you to an extent about being self-sufficient... but it is nice to be dependent sometimes in some ways I think... but of course, there could be many different definitions of 'self-sufficient' ...anyway, awesome picture and happy holidays!

    -liv
    http://chocolivlovelaugh.blogspot.kr

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  3. Haha actually that was my step father impersonating Santa for a 3 year old girl so he put on sunglasses so she couldn't recognize him :D

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  4. love your pants!

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  5. Magic post!


    Merry Christmas, dear!

    kisses,
    Silvia


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  6. I agree with most of what you said. Are you a writer/poet?

    Love your outfit too...It seems red is your fav colour :D

    Is it okay if we followed each other? I'm a poet/writer...I'd love it if we exchanged ideas.

    Love,
    Dipika.
    www.dipikasyngai.blogspot.com

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  7. Great style! Love the trousers and the shoes. You rock!!

    LUXESSED

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  8. Cool pics :)
    xx
    www.clothesandcamera.com

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  9. Gorgeous statement trousers and earrings :) Hope you had a wonderful christmas doll :) x

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  10. Merry Christmas darling!

    Love the red as usual. You are gorgeous!

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  11. well aren't this uber chic? <3
    merry xmas!

    following on bloglovin!
    xx,
    Lucija
    WLL

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  12. Thank you for your lovely comment! :)
    I follow you now!!!
    If you want we can follow each other on bloglovin and facebook!! Let me know!!! :)

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    xoxo

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  13. Super post.

    Love the outfit.

    xo Natasha
    FreeUrCloset

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  14. loving the heels!

    xx

    www.aroundlucia.com
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  15. Amazing outfit!! I love your red hair.

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  16. yes ;) Kurt pushed Krist ;)

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  17. gorgeous look! xo, Alma
    http://www.soulofashopper.com

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  18. Wowwww.... you look gorgeous! Love your outfit, specially the shoes, so awesome! Thank you so much for stopping by, would you like to follow each other on GFC and Bloglovin’? I promise I’ll follow you back <3

    x♥x♥

    "Saúde & Beleza - Health & Beauty"





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    1. Thank you so much Peet!!!! I’m following you back now on GFC and bloglovin (#32)....and I clicked the "♥like button" (below each post) on all your posts, to show some love ;)
      Hope you have a fabulous day<3

      x♥x♥

      "Saúde & Beleza - Health & Beauty"




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  19. I think asking for help is rather some sort of social interaction, that teaches you stuff. So you come out smarter and you're able to help others next time! That doesn't sound that bad :)

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  20. i love your look ! the mix of colours .. great !
    Milca
    new post
    www.milcaway.tk

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  21. Great look!
    Thanks for your comment!!
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  22. Thank you for the comment on my blog! I like your earring :)


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  23. Lovely red pumps <3

    xxx
    http://thefashionsky.blogspot.com.es

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  24. lovely pants and heels!!! perfect

    kisses

    ♥♥♥

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  25. loooove the whole outfit! <3 your hair is amazing!
    and I'm agree with you that every man is an island. we deal with our problems alone, friends might help, but they still have to deal with their own which in the end leaves us no one but ourselves. I often think too much about that I think I can become a really aloof person :S

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  26. Amazing photos!!Loving your shoes!!
    Kisses and happy day!

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  27. i found it on 'tumblr' where i have account or 'weheartit' or something else.

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  28. It's great to see someone writing about their feelings and thoughts in the blog.

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  29. Supergorgeous: your hair, the shoes...It's re(a)dy for RED

    *MlleWanderlust *

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  30. really love the red touch !
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  31. One of the most truthful posts from a fashion blog I got to read of all times. Keep staying real. Plus, I love your graphic wardrobe and geometric shaped earrings.

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  32. Sometimes I wish I could just have a quiet mind.. my thoughts spend a long time chasing each other, too.
    X

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    1. I'm really grateful for all of your comments. Especially to those who read the words, I know that there are a lot of them.;) Thanks!!

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  33. You rock!!! Your writing is interfering with my work...

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