Nov 11, 2013

Anger Managing My Multiple Personalities

For Peet's Sake blog

      I don't know if you've ever learned about this in school or if you still remember, but according to one of the many psychology theories there are 4 personality temperaments: sanguine (charismatic, sociable, seeking pleasure, impulsive), choleric (ambitious, energetic, aggressive, leader-like, passionate), melancholic (introverted, analytical, thoughtful, cautious) and phlegmatic (quiet, relaxed, content, kind, lazy). Why did I mention this? Because I wanted to tell you I sometimes feel as if I'm battling with two distinct voices in my head, two opposite sides of me, two different personalities, if you will - one of them being Sanguine and the other one Choleric. So let me tell you a story that will better illustrate all of these temperaments.
      One day sanguine, choleric, melancholic and phlegmatic went for a walk and the path led them into a gorge. All of a sudden they saw a massive rock in front of them blocking their way. So what happened then? Choleric got angry and started punching the damn rock, melancholic burst into tears and couldn't stop crying over the seemingly insurmountable obstacle, phlegmatic sat down and just didn't care about the rock while sanguine remained calm and tried to figure out a way to get around it. Although this story serves wonderfully as a learning tool, I think it's doing a disservice to all the cholerics out there, because choleric from the story would also find a solution - after he'd lost all of his marbles and collected them back again. The person who came up with this story's just stupid and if you agree with it, you're stupid too!! See, that's my Choleric coming out, you're actually not stupid, I can just be short-tempered sometimes. And that's my Sanguine saying hi, waving the white flag, that pussy.
      Because I was raised to be a good girl who'd grow up to be a proper lady (the joke's on you, mommy and daddy), I try and suppress Choleric in me so Sanguine has taken the center stage of my life. I'm guessing that starting this blog was Choleric's cry for help because he (yes, my Choleric is a mean, spiteful little man, just imagine George from Seinfeld) was fed up with the gag Sanguine'd shoved in his mouth. You have to know though that Sanguine's intention wasn't egotistic at all, it was just an attempt to prevent Choleric from becoming the next Hitler, Pol Pot or Idi Amin (who were all cholerics). But to be honest, shushing my Choleric hasn't always been easy.
      Since I'm more on the fast side than on the slow one, meaning that 89,77 % of the time the world doesn't move fast enough for me and to top that, I hate wasting time so after years of silencing my Choleric everything from standing in lines, waiting for people, driving slow, speaking slow, walking slow (doing anything slow really), waiting for water to boil and everything in between became a real problem for me and several years ago I was forced to consult the almighty Google because I almost turned into a fire breathing dragon in public once and we really can't have that, right Sanguine? I don't even remember what was the situation that had pushed me to my limits, but I remember coming home, turning my computer on and googling 'anger management tips'. Boy, did that help. NOT.
      Google offered ingenious solutions such as: count to 10, try to relax, go for a walk, use humor but avoid being sarcastic, meditate or do some yoga poses. Really? Really, Google?! I could count to ten THOUSAND but I'd still want to grab my monitor and hurl it out the window after I'd be done. And how the fuck can 'try to relax' be a suggestion for people who aren't relaxed?! That's like going to the dentist's because your tooth hurts and the dentist says: "Try not to have a toothache." And how the fuck can a walk be useful - how about situations that involve road rage, huh?! And I should be funny, but not sarcastic? How the fuck is that even possible, that's one and the same thing! Am I supposed to tell a joke when I'm angry? Knock, knock. Who's there? Nobody sarcastic apparently, you dumb bitch! But that meditation and yoga poses, that was my favorite... Imagine Chris Brown doing some yoga poses when he's agitated. Or better yet, imagine Chris Brown being told to do some yoga poses when he's agitated, I'm sure that would be a sight to see.
      Despite all of these redundant tips, I did in fact find one that was helpful for me for years and that was: Ask yourself if this will matter to you in 10 years. Brilliant. I read that and all the anger disappeared immediately and that advice worked like a charm since then because when you think about it, all the waiting and other petty things really aren't something that will upset the fabric of your existence in a long run. At least that's what I believed until my boyfriend, who else, screwed the tip up for me.
      We were standing in a line in a grocery store. The line was long, every single person in front of us had enough groceries to supply all of the world's fat camps for a decade and the girl at the register was still very new or just very lazy so everything moved slower than slow. I was calm, knowing that this won't matter to my life in 10 years, but my boyfriend was getting more and more fidgety. I turned to him and said:
      "Babe, chill, it's ok."
      "How the fuck am I supposed to chill?! We always pick the slowest line, this is taking forever!!"
      To what I said: "Who cares. Just think about it - will this matter to you in 10 years?" thinking I deserve a Nobel peace prize for saving the day and his life, BUT...
      "What? What kind of a stupid question is that?! Who cares about 10 years from now! No, it won't matter to me then. It won't matter to me tomorrow, but it matters to me now and I wanna kill myself!!"
      And PUFF, just like that, that magic tip that had served me for so long, disappeared into thin air. Of course it won't matter to me in 10 years, but it fucking matters to me now!! And judging by the way things are going, it WILL matter to me in 10 years, BECAUSE I'LL STILL BE STANDING IN THIS FUCKING LINE!! Why the fuck did we choose this line?! Why the fuck are we moving this slow?! Why?! WHY?! FUCK MY LIFE!!!
      I guess I have to learn some yoga poses now because I can't let my Choleric roam free in this world or else heads will roll.


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21 comments:

  1. haha awesome post! i like the question, whether it'll matter 10 years from now, but maybe it only really only applies to larger predicaments. haha idk, I'm the complete opposite of you though. I'm the biggest introvert! :P

    katslovefashion.blogspot.com

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    1. If you're able to be more chill than I am, than that's GREAT for you. And I'm jealous.:)

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  2. Ur lenses and look are just perfect
    Good day.
    Keep in touch,
    www.beingbeautifulandpretty.com

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  3. First your pics are maxing I love the styling in them! R u on instagram? You should put them on there for sure.

    Second, I have found that people ho process things quickly or re highly intelligent get upset quicker because you don't understand inefficiency. So anger isn't always a bad thin. Funny enough I don't trust people who never get mad and ironically http issues me off even more! There is a time o get pissed off dmnit. Too much zen is also annoying IMHO

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    1. You think zen's annoying???:D That's fucking awesome!:D

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  4. I would love to be analyzed. Despite my age, I'm still not sure which temperament I fall in to, mainly because I exude all of them within a week, sometimes a day and in some cases an hour!! I'm not sure if there is a psychological theory for that......as for queues I hate that mentality too, don't sweat the small stuff because it wont matter in 10 years, who care about 10 years, it's bothering me now and I want to deal with it now I'm impatient!!

    I agree with Naomi, with your developed photography skills you need to be getting on Instagram. You know how you do your Ebay how to post, you so should do one on your photography!

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    1. No, no, no. I can't even bear the thought of getting on another social anything. I fucking hate that stuff, like this and tweet that and instagram whatever. Na-a, can't do it. This is where I draw the line.:D But I can do a photography post, I have no problem with that.:)

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  5. I had never read of that set psychology pigeonholes of personality types - I wonder why it stops at four? It's nice that you have the best (most pleasurable anyway) of those four. I don't hear voices but I have way more thoughts and feelings than that running through my head - sometimes the body becomes almost catatonic while the mind spirals on. The idea of you being capable having any (even remote) psychological similarities to any of the despotic leaders you mentioned is pretty ludicrous - I do like ludicrous humour though. I think all types of humour help at getting through life - whether slapstick, irony, sarcasm, or ludicrous incongruities. My own attempts at managing anger (tips): Watching an ass-kicking movie or DVD, saying the Serenity Prayer, Harmless physical action, passive-aggressive fantasies, the right music, witchcraft, voodoo (okay, I was kidding about the last two). Your makeup is fabulous! How did you manage those bright red irises and cat pupils? I love the look.

    http://www.full-brief-panties.blogspot.com/

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    1. Humor helps at getting through life. True that, my friend!

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  6. Your comment on my blog reminded me that I wanted to comment on your blog .. lol

    Anyway, I think anger management is part society and part hormones. I mean, I'm older and I can silently become un-glued when I see an older person write a check at the grocery store .. ugh .. get a debit card, swipe, punch, done is all I'm thinking.

    For hormonal issues, I've gone as far as trying a homeopathic tincture called Anger-Soothe (no, it doesn't work .. lol). But at least I tried.

    Monica, www.pear-shaped-gal.com

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    1. I've read that Valium gets extracted from a root of a plant called Valerian (hence the name obviously) and they sell it in capsules and I've been meaning to try them out.:D At least I'll try.;)

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  7. Peet, can I tell you I get your temperament very well. I am sanguine and choleric as well, especially if something that makes me soon piss off I hardly calm down, plus I am quite stubborn. But you know, that tip isnt too much bad at all, thinking if in 10 years if that think will matter or not is a good way to realize if the things that make us mad are really worth. Lol, I usually tend to avoid lines at the grocery and make the bill by myself at the electronic check desk, I hate too looong and slow line!:P Btw, you look AMAZING, you eyes are hypnotic! Kisses dear! xo

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  8. I SO get you. I am the same way. Especially when it comes to the whole world being so annoyingly slow while I just want to go, go, go, lol. Gosh, the things that anger me sometimes... :-) I'm glad I am not the only one with a temper like this, hehe.

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    1. Yeeey, another one like me!!!!:D I though we were an endangered species!

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  9. Nice photographs. I think they are prefect for your post.

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    1. Thanks! That was my mission and I'm glad I succeeded.;)

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  10. I can be a little choleric sometimes, but I think I'm pretty phlegmatic (boooring) most of the time.

    http://naomemandeflores.com/en

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    1. Hey now, phlegmatic doesn't necessarily mean boring!! I know some pretty colorful laid back people.:)

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  11. I think everyone passes for all those temperaments!
    muah*
    mariana

    http://asouthbreeze.blogspot.pt/

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  12. That' s scary!
    hahahaha Your boyfriend always makes life more difficult , doesn't he?
    In this case, he has liberate the beast inside you : D
    I agree. You should learn some yoga poses, because nothing else of this google tips helps.

    XXX
    http://muerdelaespina.blogspot.com.es

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