Feb 3, 2014

I Got It from My Mama


      I don't know if you've ever heard this song or not, but I have. A bazillion times. I know the lyrics by heart and I simply love the track. I like it for the video, the beat, the video, A$AP Rocky's rhyming skills, the video and especially for one line where he says "her attitude Rihanna, she get it from her mama". And, of course, the video. Which is flawless. But as far as the line's concerned, I'm pretty certain it should actually be 'got it' if not 'has gotten it', but I'm not a native speaker of English, A$AP Rocky is so I'm sure he's right and I'm wrong, but I like the line for the semantics of it anyway, so grammar actually doesn't matter (but grammar rarely matters so there's no surprise there).
      When people say that someone 'got it from her mama', they usually refer to the girl's curves (her rear end in particular) and/or her looks in general, but I'm really glad A$AP specified that the maternal genetic influence can stretch far beyond just one's physical phenotype. In layman's terms - I'm glad he pointed out the girl's attitude and not her butt. Why? Because I pretty much look like a mirror image of my mom, but the hand-me-down I've gotten I get from her which I'm most proud of is the attitude.
      Most people that know me and my mom, think we have nothing in common, that we're basically diametric to one and other. Since my mom is a pediatrician in our annoyingly small and tight-knit community, a lot of people know her and they always say: "Your mom's so gentle and quiet, I can barely hear her speak. Does she ever scream? I'm sure she never screamed at you." Does my mom ever scream? Try being 15 and coming home after 10 p.m. and find out for yourself. Her screaming skills are so exceptional, she should have her own zip code - 666. The dark lord Beelzebub himself should take notes from her, she's that good, really. But no one believes me and I've always been annoyed by this mass misinterpretation of her.
      There was one thing I did love about living in this puny community of ours though and that was the regular check-ups at the doctor's when I was 7 and 9 years old. Not because I couldn't wait to go to my mom's office, but because all of my classmates had to go, especially my male classmates. During those check-ups, the doctor always looked down your undies and the next day, all the boys were nervously asking me if my mom told me anything. Mind you, only the boys were asking me this, already all preoccupied with their pee-pees. They thought that my mom checked their penises so she'd tell me all about them when she got home. Yes, instead of a goodnight story, she'd describe tiny juvenile phalluses to me. We didn't even have a TV back then, in the evenings the entire family sat in a circle in our living room and she'd tell us how little boys in our town looked naked, sometimes alphabetically, sometimes by size. And then we laughed, oh, how we laughed... No! The damn broad never told me anything! And I asked, trust me, I asked. But to make things clear, if any of my previous classmates is reading this, doctors don't check your package, they check whether you have both testicles and if or how hairy you are, so they can monitor your development.
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      Although there were times when I resented her for the means she'd chosen to impound some morals, sense and values into mine and my brother's defiant head and I thought she was being an egoist at our expense on occasion (or two), I've now realized just how much I've learned from her ways and become exactly like her. And I like that. She, on the other hand, once said: "You know, the older I get, the more I realize, that you and your brother have taught me more than I could've ever taught you two. Parents always learn more from their children than vice versa, it's the truth." To what I replied: "Damn straight. It was about time you figured that out." Of course, I was half joking.
      I may have taught my mother a thing or two (mostly just how much her patience can actually be stretched) but she has given me one of the most valuable lessons in life: Always stand up for yourself and protect your own. How did she teach me that? Certainly not solely by preaching but by actually practicing what she'd preached and leading by example. I have a wide assortment of examples but to prove my point, I'll only mention one when she made it abundantly clear what I and my brother had know all along - that she is neither coy nor quiet.
      When I was about 10 years old, my parents got a divorce. One day, my father said to me: "I and your mother are getting a divorce," and I went straight to my brother and asked him: "What does divorce mean?" My parents were the first couple to get a divorce out of all of my classmates and friends so naturally I had no idea a thing like that even existed. Nor did any of my classmates or friends. When the news broke, one of my classmate's mother forbade her to hang out with me or sit next to me in class because I was a bad influence - because my parents had gotten a divorce.
      When my mom found out about what had happened, I think it broke her heart. But what's more important, she got pissed. The next day, she took me to school and waited for that classmate's mom. When she came, my mother didn't scream (even though she was more than capable of doing that) but by the look in her eyes you knew she was from the 666 area, it was a look I and my brother knew all too well. I don't remember exactly what she said, but she very calmly and diplomatically gave the woman a clear message which was: "You're a moron and the chewing gum that's stuck to the bottom of your shoe has better cognitive abilities than you. You should be ashamed of yourself and if not that, sorry that you exist, I know I am." The woman had nothing to say. Duh.
      I, on the other hand, felt like a million bucks and my little brain couldn't believe what had just happened. "I'm actually worth sticking up for?? Fuck. I'm actually worth sticking up for. And when people talk shit about you, so can actually say something back to them? Not just can but should! I guess this is how epiphany feels like."
      After that incident, I've never been quiet about anything ever again. And THAT's what I got from my mama. It's a good thing my mom didn't pass down the bite-your-tongue mantra. That would've made for a really boring blog, don't you think?

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      Peet

28 comments:

  1. I love those photos! And I love your outfit, too! You look so stylish! And your blog is so amazing!

    Kejmy ♥.

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  2. Thank you for sharing your story Peet. I was smiling the whole time (not smirking). So we have something in common. My dad was 1 of the 2 family doctors in our puny town; every summer he would hold free circumcision. I said I wanted to be a doctor like him, so he said the first thing I could do was to watch the procedure so I won't recoil in the sight of blood. So I did. And they were all my classmates :D So before their gfs and wives, I've seen everything first, in all its glory :D My Mama taught me to be kind. She says you don't know what every person's going through behind closed doors, I must be kind. The other thing she taught me was to always wear my best underwear, so in case I get ran over by a truck and have to be brought to the ER, I'm not wearing mismatched undies :D All I really really wanted to say was, shake what your mama gave you ! That I learned from another Mama--my gay-est Zumba instructor. Haha. Have a lovely week :)

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    1. Hey, both of my parents are doctors too.:D Your mom's a smart lady, I've never considered the underwear thing from this point of view. But imagine you had NO underwear on!! People who don't wear underwear should have a talk with your mom.:)

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  3. I think daughters get a lot from their mum's.. Not only physically but in personality too...
    I am so much like my mum, we both sound exact similar on phone .. If we shaft pinking up thing from one corner and go to other, I the end we will have exact same things.. :)
    I had a nice laugh on your school story..
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  4. HAHA I all the people tell me that I look just like my mom too! ;)
    And the attitude, well, now I can admit that I am becoming, more and more like her too!
    Love you outfit! ;)

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    1. Like it or not, we inherit some of the attitude.:D

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  5. Hi Peet, this was a quirky and endearing tribute to your mum, I think thats the best thing she had taught you, to stand up for yourself and what you think is right. I think I am the opposite of that and I wish I could be more like you and your mum. She sounds like a truly wonderful person, even with the 'supposed' screaming, I think all parents have a degree in that. Those leather leggings look ah-mazing on you, and the pvc clutch is killer clutch. Loves. Have an awesome week hun!

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    1. I agree, it was a tribute. She read it, she loved it, I did good.:)

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  6. My mom has been my french teacher for the past 3 years. Both my parents work at my school which goes from 6-12 grade. I honestly don't mind it, which most people don't get. It's kind of funny that in a way it's the same for you.

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  7. Your mom is awesome! I love that story about how she fought for you.
    Aha, and yes, it would definitely have made for a boring blog :P

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    1. I think so too, she's pretty awesome.:)

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  8. Thanks for sharing the photographs. You look great.

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  9. Oh, it was so exciting to read about your Mom that I almost forgot to watch your outfit - okay, so this first, wow, your outfit is perfect - as usual - and so cool - like you! Ah, and the boys asked you after they visited your Mom, only the boys, this doesn´t really sursprise me ;) And now I know another reason why you are so clever: you had a good idol in your Mom, so great what she said to the silly Mom of your classmate. And yes, it´s good how she is, your blog isn´t anything than boring. Your blog is funny, smart and really clever.

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

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    1. Thanks!! You sure know how to flatter a person, don't you??:D Thank you, babe, for being so cool and kind.

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  10. Peet, your classmate's mom was a true moron! Im sorry for your parents, I know must havent been an easy thing at all. I get it very well since it was (is) the same to me. I really like how you talked about your mom and what you "get" from her, I think everyone should stand up for themselves against everyone if necessary. My sister is a doctor, though she is a geriatric :) I never heard that song, lol what a shame, is so cool! And you rock dear, you have such a striking and remarkable style! Many hugs, have a goodnight and a great day tmw! xo

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    1. It wasn't an easy thing, no, especially since it was so rare. But now, looking back and thinking what people had said to me and my parents because of something as common as a divorce makes me think I lived in the frigging dark ages! It was such a stigma back then, but now everybody does it, it's the norm. A bad norm, but a norm nonetheless...

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  11. I wish I had a female doctor when I was young. I was traumatized by both parents and my male doctor - I only want to see female doctors now. I think the description of your mom going zip code 666 beyond the dark lord Beelzebub is hilarious. Highly intelligent but with a stinging sarcasm - wow. At least she was consistent unlike my parents who said "Do as I say, not as I do" (whack whack whack whack etc..). It 's a great feeling when parents defend you against someone who's bullying you or at least support you. I'm glad you got that feisty focused intelligent zingers capability from your mom. It makes for very interesting reading and must help a lot with getting out frustrations.

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    1. It does actually.:) But I'm kind of sorry for your bad experience thought. Although, female doctors and lawyers and teachers and basically everything are better than male anyway...:)

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  12. Love your coat and the boots are amazing!!

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  13. I have tears in my eyes! your story about your mom is so exciting and emotional! It's really wonderful that you have such a great role model in your life!
    your blog is one of my favorites! and your outfit too!

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    1. Well... Thank you. I'm pretty floored by your comment. Thank you, dear.

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  14. Sounds like both and your 'mama' are feisty ladies :-) And that is definitely a good thing! No one should feel forced to take bullying, and it is NEVER wrong to speak your mind and stand up for yourself. As far as curves are concerned I didn't inherit much from my mom (fuck you genetics) but there are definitely some things we have in common personality wise.

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  15. Having read that, I'm sitting here thinking about what good morals and traits my mum passed on to me and do you know I can't think. Maybe they are so ingrained that I can't articulate them. I know all the physical things I've inherited, but the emotional hhhhm let me think about that one. You are quite right, I probably wouldn't be reading your blog right now if your mum passed on the bite your tongue mantra - Thanks to your momma! and don't you just love A$AP!

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    1. I do, he's great!! Except for that 'get', he's a very good lyricist.:)

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  16. This just made me wonder what I got from my mama. Great to hear your attitude is your mum's gift (yes gift, because your outspokenness is awesome). I actually thought this post would be about your booty or something haha :D

    Anywho, I'd like to thank you for sharing your story, it's an inspiration ;)

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  17. Your mom sounds like my mom. I thought she was Satan when I was young, but now, especially with having Baby Boy, I know I didn't give her the credit she deserves..... and I was a pain in the ass.

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  18. So your speechifying about life, sex, what bother you about people, what bother you about your boyfriend, what bothers your boyfriend about you (lot of things with bother! haha) we owe to your mother.
    What a great woman!
    My parents divorced about 3 years ago and I guess it's always weird. It seems a normal thing until it happens to you and you think there isn't lots of divorced people like it's said (not among my friends). People spoke, my father spoke, my mother spoke .. Nobody said anything good. I got fed up and sent everyone to hell for doing things like kids.

    Of course, the best thing in life is not to stay silent, not only because you have to defend yourself, but because the feeling after that, is better than sex =)

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    nice blazer ;)

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