May 5, 2014

Say Yay to the Gay

      One of the personal traits I personally value the most in a person's personal personality is . . . Personableness? Even though it would fit in perfectly with the sentence, no, personableness is not it — it's tolerance. If you ask the Oxford Dictionary of English, what that is, it'll say: "Tolerance is the willingness to accept or tolerate somebody/something, especially opinions or behavior that you may not agree with, or people who are not like you, stupid." And that's exactly the point of tolerance — not that you agree with everybody on everything at all times, but that you allow people to have a different point of view when you don't see eye to eye. Easy, right? Well, if you're a fiery barrel of bile and nitroglycerin like me, not exactly . . .
      I'd like to think, I'm tolerant though. As long as you aren't doing something that's hurting someone (and this includes animals as well as plants) or you get the individual's consensus to do so, I don't care if you pretend to be a dolphin and make dolphin sounds while you frantically jerk off in the middle of a near-by mall wearing a flamingo suit and white socks with black Birkenstock sandals, I couldn't care less. I might advise you to lose the sandals or at least the socks if you so happened to ask me what I thought about your masturbating dolphin impersonation, but that's just my opinion and I most certainly can accept yours. That wasn't the case one Saturday night a long loooong time ago though.
      I and my boyfriend were at a party and we were sitting and talking with some dude, we had never seen before (and I have luckily never seen afterwards). I don't even know exactly how, but the conversation led to him not wanting to say why he had thought that there were less female DJs than male ones. I, on the other hand, being the annoyingly inquisitive bugger that I am, kept harassing him to say what he had wanted to say.
      "Come on! Say it. Just fucking say it! What did you want to say?"
      "No, no, you'll get mad, I better not."
      "Come oooon. I'm not gonna get mad. I won't. I promise."
      "Is she gonna get mad?" That was directed towards my boyfriend.
      "I don't know. I don't think so, she can take it. I think," he said knowing that he had trained me well and that I really can take a lot of bullshit before I explode. Usually.
      "Come on, man. Just fucking say it! It can't be that bad, can it?!"
      "Ok . . . Fine . . . I just wanted to say . . . that  . . ." I nodded and waved my hand for him to continue. "That women are an inferior race to men because you don't have any sense of rhythm."
      My boyfriend nervously twitched in his seat: "You're on your own now, man."
      And I? I went off like an a-bomb.
      First I listed all the female DJs and then I started spewing out other female musicians and I think I mentioned everyone from Britney Spears to Vanessa Mae. I talked about how his views were completely chauvinistic because the society trains men to think that a woman's only purpose in life is to reproduce and because of their maternal role, which prevents them to live their lives as they'd please for months if not years, they too think that they're unable to do stuff that are otherwise unquestionable for men and to men. I know, I was thorough. And all he had to say in return was:
      "You said you weren't gonna get mad."
      "I didn't know you'd say something THIS stupid." Tolerance is the willingness to accept or tolerate something, especially opinions that you may not agree with. And I'd like to think I'm tolerant . . .
      Now, writing about this, a quote by an English poet and philosopher, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, comes to mind: "I have seen great intolerance shown in support of tolerance." Well fuck you, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, I was pissed, I couldn't help myself. If this same exact shit happened today, I'd definitely react differently. I'd simply say: "Hey, at least some of us can cook and give good head." I know, I know, it's rather anticlimactic, but thanks to all the climaxes in my life my nervous system is shot to shit. And I'm not even 30.
      Thanks to the all-mighty Internet, I have stumbled upon an article saying that homophobic people die sooner than the more accepting, open-minded ones. Due to anger they're more likely to die off heart related diseases. Pretty damn logical, wouldn't you say? I, for the record, have nothing against gay people, I just have to learn to accept all of the stupid idiots that do. And all of the other morons who make my blood boil, because like Friedrich D├╝rrenmatt said: "Without tolerance, our world turns to hell." And my body to a corpse 2.5 years prematurely.


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      Peet 

20 comments:

  1. A bad sense of rhythm? Inferior to men? Has he ever tried dancing before? Ballet? Even hip-hop? Excuse me?! I would have left him stunned, and slapped him, walked away Peet.

    xoxo,
    http://petitemaisonoffashion.blogspot.com/ ♥

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  2. okay, I don't like stupid people anyway but that's a whole new level of stupid :O how can a guy be SO stupid? that's just sad... or funny or I don't even know. I wouldn't bother communicating with someone like that and I'm glad you were able to stay more or less calm. people like that are not worth our energy in my opinion. and no normal girl would want a guy who thinks like that so the future of this guy is not so bright I think ;)

    Maiken,
    Maikeni blogi - part of me

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    1. He was kind of good looking so there's a chance he'll find some shallow nitwit and they'll be perfect for each other.:)

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  3. nice wisdom! also I must say, these photos are incredible, wow! :)
    Thank you so much for your lovely comment <3

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  4. Peet, yay for u! I would react the same probably. You know, ignorant people talk in that way, thats why Im sure that after your reply, he neither had nothing to add!I consider myself tolerant as well but I really dont get people when they do not justify or prove their sentences, mentality or facts. Coleridge quote is true but sometimes is hard to keep calm, especially when you got such stupid opinions lol! Im just laughing thinking also of ur bf seeing all the scene!:) And ur photos are of course a masterpiece!:) Many kisses! xo

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  5. Hmmm. I am going to be honest with you - you don't reason with madness. If someone said that - he clearly lives under a rock and still is on the look out for the sabre tooth tiger.

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  6. Tolerance is definitely a virtue, but not always the easiest when faced like ignorant comments like that! Glad you were able to give him a piece of your mind ;) And so super interesting that the anger related to prejudice leads to earlier death. Makes sense! Lovely photos, as always! xo

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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    1. No, it's not the easiest, sometimes it's really hard for me to hold my tongue. Eh, who am I kidding, it's ALWAYS hard for me to be quiet and to not say exactly what's on my mind. Sometimes I think it's physically impossible actually.:)

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  7. I LOVE your blue hair and your makeup is beautiful. In fact you look absolutely stunning in all of the photos above. The lighting and photography are beautiful too. That article saying that homophobic people die sooner is great news if true. I'm hetero but run into the same level of phobic hatred sometimes for my lingerie cross-dressing.
    About that "Women are an inferior..." stupidity - it really is laughably dumb. Years ago I wrote a page on a different blog about how women are genetically superior to men. They think with the wrong head, which is where their brains tend to be, and I suspect Testoserone may make them addled. Regardless the "Y" chromosome is inferior to the "X" chromosome.
    Thank you for your lovely comment on what had been my last blog post. I just published a new post titled "Shadowline and Victorias Secret Lingerie Fashion OOTDs and Reviews with Dressing Room Selfie Photos and Video with Blooper". In the forward I wrote an apology to you and included a link to your post "For Peet's Sake: It's Self-Portrait, You Dumb Fuck!" You also got a mention further down (the post is HUGE) so I included an index on top. If you can find it there's a truly cringe worthy video of me embedded in the post that probably belongs on Funny or Die or http://www.reddit.com/r/cringe . I admit to being one of those hominids/humanoids who have the "Y" chromosome, so I undoubtedly do dumb stuff I don't even realise is dumb. I guess I'd better be thankful for womens' tolerance and look for more serenity myself - and hope I can enjoy laughing when more intelligent women go off like A-bombs whilst knowing when to at least figuratively duck or run. :) I loved this post - funny and thought provoking with gorgeous photos.

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    1. I mean . . . You really are too kind, dear! I always hope that people don't find the pictures of myself and taken by myself to be hideous so it's really good to hear words like these. THANK YOU. And I sure hope it's true that homophobic people die sooner - who needs those kind of trolls around anyway?!

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  8. Not sure if it's a lack of tolerance or flat out ignorance (probably a bit of both).

    On a separate note .. I am loving your blue hair.

    Monica, www.pear-shaped-gal.com

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  9. Hahahahaha, oh Peet! I would love to be a fly on the wall while you putt somebody in their place. You are always right and I admire you for how you express it!

    Corinne x

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    1. Hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!! I'm showing this comment to my boyfriend, I'm sure he'll disagree with the 'you are always right' part.:D

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  10. I noticed that the people whol tell me "I'm tolerant" are usually the most intolerant people I know... (ann in the name of tolerance of course)

    Now I am a lot more tolerant : I couldn't give less of a shit what people think. Therefore they can speak their opinion and I just think to myself "omg" or I just tell them "get away from me". As simple as that. I certainly would with that asshole you met !
    I love your pictures baby !
    http://www.melolimparfaite.com/

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    1. 'Get away from me.' Simple and to the point - I like it.:D

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  11. Very smart to learn from your enemy.

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  12. Wow. I think he's lucky he didn't get a punch to the face, he's lucky he only got away with a yelling at!! PS One way flight booked eeeeep! xx

    www.hausofsarahrachel.blogspot.com

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    1. Yay for the ticket, babe, congrats!!!;)

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  13. Hi Peet, first of all, obsessed with your hair colour, it looks incredible, did you have to bleach it first? Secondly, I come from a country with the worst history of intolerance, namely apartheid, where people couldn't go to the same beaches as others because their skin was the 'wrong' colour and they had to use different entrances, separate transport systems and had curfews at night...because they were considered the inferior race, if that is not the most sick and horrific example of intolerance I don't know what is. Luckily we have evolved from that here and I can only wish that all these intolerant people would have a walk in the shoes of the people they judge to know how it feels. I would have been equally as disgusted with this guy you met but I wouldn't have had the courage to tell him anything, which I am so happy that you did. You should get into politics, even better, you should come to SA and deliver motivational talks, Peet's style of course, I think you would do wonders for our youth here.

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    1. Sure, I'd love to come - you sponsor the plane ride there and I'm game!:)

      As for the hair, I was blond already so I just put some blue semi-permanent dye in and it's going to wash out. Not completely though, it'll turn green unfortunately.:)

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